Getting To The Third Date

While first dates may be nerve-wracking experiences, generally they turn out fairly well, for the most part. You may not click with someone, or find them nice but with no chemistry, but usually they are not the stuff that horror stories are made of.

Of course, there are always a few like that, but they are the exception rather than the norm. However, if you find yourself getting plenty of first dates, a few second dates but no third dates to speak of, you may be doing something wrong on your dates. What could it be?

The first thing to ask yourself is what are your typical date conversation topics? Are you talking about current events, movies, friends and family, your job, etc. or are you ranting and raving and complaining? If you are a consummate complainer, then the chances of getting a third date with a woman become a lot slimmer.

The bottom line is that no one wants to sit and listen to someone go on and on about something they dislike. Instead, evaluate your favorite conversation topics and find a few that include positive themes and pleasant overtones. You might be surprised at the change this makes.

Another thing that tends to leave you dateless after the first or second date is bad manners. Men who are late, talk with food in their mouth, dress poorly, and never return phone calls will generally guarantee that you will not get a repeat performance when it comes to dating. Improve your manners, and you will improve your dating scorecard.

A little physical contact is a good thing. Of course, on first dates, physical contact should be light, non-sexual touches and maybe a goodnight kiss. However, if things do not heat up after the second date, with great body language, more suggestive touches and all out flirting, there is a good chance that date number three is not going to be in the works.

Chemistry is important, and so is the power of touch. You need to make her physically aware of you so that those chemical fireworks can have the chance to start up. Are you one of those people who either have no time for dating because you work so much or are you the complete opposite that starts planning your future together after the first date?

Either one of these personality traits can get you into trouble. If you don't make time to date, you will not have any woman sticking around to try and get some face time in you busy schedule. You must make time to see her at least once a week, and also fit in a phone call or email or two, as well.

If you are the type that wants to start purchasing a white picket fence two weeks into the relationship, keep these thoughts to yourself. They are a bit scary for a woman who is only on her second date with you. Try and let nature take its course and stop trying to hurry things along. If they were meant to happen, they will.