How Not To Take Her For Granted

When you are settled into a comfortable relationship, it is easy to start taking her for granted, and vice versa. You think that since you are together, you can relax and quit being on your best behavior every minute.

While it is true that one of the perks of a long-term relationship is that you are comfortable with each other and can be yourself without worrying about what kind of impression you are making, it does not mean that you should never do anything special for one another.

Here are some simple ways to remind yourself how not to take her for granted.

First of all, you need to look at your relationship with softness. This means that while you realize there are things about your relationship or love that are not perfect, you still cherish the overall relationship.

It means that you give her a break when things are less than perfect and remember not to expect perfection, because you will be disappointed if you do. It is also important to touch her every day. Guys communicate through touch, but women respond to that kind of attention, also.

Give her hugs; stroke her face or her back or her thigh. Your touch communicates many different messages to her, including that you still find her attractive and sexy, and that you think she is a lovable person. Touch is one to connect every day that is both easy and fun to do.

You can wear your ratty sweat pants, holey jeans and your favorite t-shirt with the obscene saying on it, but not every day. Yes, it is great to feel like you don't have to put on a show for her, but you need to take the time to look good once in a while, too. This means that you dress up and take her out on dates to remind her how hot you are.

Don't forget about the small stuff. You know her best, and you know what the little things are that will really make her feel special. Say thanks for the small things she does for you, and do those small things for her, because real love is not always about grand, sweeping gestures. Sometimes it is about a lifetime of small things that add up to something wonderful.

Take time out every single day to connect. It can be a few minutes in bed before you go to sleep, or it can be over dinner complete with a candle or two and no TV. In today's busy world, we often get so busy with our lives that we forget what drew us to our lover in the first place. By taking the time to connect every day, you give each other a chance to remember what it is that you love about the other person.

Most of all, love her each day like it is your last. Because the truth is, you never know if it will be or not. Accidents happen; tragedy strikes and loved ones are taken while you thought you still had plenty of time to let them know how you felt. Learn to live and love in the moment and let her know how special she is while you have the time.