That first part of any new relationship is so much fun. You love being with each other, and finding out new things about each other as your relationship continues to grow. But how do you know what the right things to do are so that you don’t screw up that relationship before it even gets a chance to start? Here are some of the most common mistakes people make in new relationships.
It is great if you love her and if she loves you back. However, telling her too soon and too often takes them from wow to everyday in a hurry. A man should never say those three little words unless he means them, and once you do, you should not overuse them.
It is easy in the beginning stages of a relationship to let the little things that bother you about her slide. After all, you are in love, right? The fact is, things that annoy you a little bit will eventually start to annoy you a lot if you don’t discuss them with her.
Otherwise, they accumulate and then you end up losing your temper completely over something as simple as not being able to find your favorite pair of boxers, when it is really about something else entirely. So talk over those little issues before they become big issues.
Everyone has a past. Nearly everyone has a skeleton or a few things they would rather not talk about at length regarding their past. However, if you are in a serious relationship with someone, you need to reveal anything that could possibly put a damper on your relationship. This includes previous marriages, children, STDs, substance abuse issues, etc.
You don’t have to tell her every little detail, but you definitely don’t want her to hear it from your one buddy that can never keep his mouth shut when he has been drinking. So tell her upfront so that she knows and can talk to you about it in a neutral manner before it sets off sparks.
You should also take the initiative when it comes to making plans. Just like you prefer not having to be the one who initiates sex all the time, she prefers not having to make all the plans all the time. You may really not care about where you are going to eat dinner, go for the weekend, or what you are going to be wearing to her company party, but if you don’t offer up a suggestion from time to time, she is going to get annoyed.
She will also think you have no backbone, and that is a serious problem because women do not usually respect men that appear to not have a backbone. So speak up. She will appreciate it. Perhaps the most important thing in a serious relationship is to never take her for granted.
If you think that now that you have her you don’t have to work at keeping her, you could not be more wrong. You should always treat her like you did when you were first dating. Basically, you need to keep dating her, because that dating behavior keeps the spark alive in your relationship.